Well, HELLO OCTOBER!! Wait – what happened to September? It came and went in a flash, while I was busy with my babies, my business, and cruisin’ with my besties! 🛳️It was a great month, but I do believe I owe you a newsletter.😉
There are plenty of things I could write about with all that’s going on in our world right now, but I want to keep this close to home and talk about something that happens within us. It happened for me recently and I think it’s worth a look.
It’s about the concept of “being the bigger person” in the face of conflict or disagreement. It comes up a lot in this current political climate and it’s a little tough to navigate. That phrase pops into my head often, and sometimes I feel more like a coward than the bigger person – especially when boundaries are stepped on. It seems easy enough on social media to just delete, but that’s not how I hold my relationships with people I care about. That being said, I’m revisiting the concept and personally, I think it needs a makeover.
So, what does it mean to “be the bigger person” anyway? Does it mean to disengage? Go along to get along? Delete comments, or worse – friends? Does the bigger lean in or turn away? Does the bigger person honor their boundaries or let things slide? When I was a kid, it meant – walk away, don’t lower myself to their level, and for God’s sake, don’t embarrass myself. Those left some confusing messages that translate in my life today as, avoidance, superiority, and shame (for speaking my Truth). I don’t know about you, but that’s not how I choose to show up in the world.
What if “being the bigger person” could mean, be the bigger person we ARE – not a bigger person than the other guy? It’s not a competition! Or at least it shouldn’t be – not considering we’re all human, all fallible, all equal in our right to pursue Truth and happiness, all subject to projecting our unhealed wounds and traumas on others; all a little scared, unsure and insecure at times. Yes, ALL of us. And we’re all living on this big round rock together, so maybe if we take that age-old advice and step into the bigger, truer version of US when things get messy, we could show up in our Higher Self with love, compassion and a little more grace. From that truer place, maybe we’d be able to hold healthy boundaries with ease; speak our mind with confidence; and feel calm and comfortable in our skin, even in the midst of conflict. Maybe we could even disengage without disconnecting! What if THAT is what it means to “be the bigger person”?
What do you think?
I’m going with it! 😊And to integrate it, I’ll be stepping into my BIGGER, Truest Self, proactively every day for the next 45 days – consecutively. (Because that’s what it takes to forge new neural pathways in my brain!). That means, I’ll seek out and take actions every day, that are aligned with WHO I AM and how I want to live in the world with other people.
If you want to join me, come along – or for a deeper dive into what it means to be the bigger YOU in the world, click here to schedule a free call and we’ll map it out!
Untiil then, go ENJOY this beautiful month – I look forward to seeing you soon!
