Hello again! Seems like I just sent out July’s newsletter – how is it already August? Time seems to move more swiftly when we’re in flow and enjoying life, doesn’t it? Not so much when we’re feeling emotionally stuck or struggling. 😞
Clients often come to me frustrated, anxious and overwhelmed because they’ve done tons of growth work, but they still don’t feel “good” about an aspect of their life or even who they are. Or they’re struggling to come back from something painful or traumatic and they just can’t seem to move forward. They’ve tried everything and nothing touches it – they just know there’s more to life than what they’re living, and they feel stuck.
I get it – this☝️was me. I was living every day with unhealed trauma I didn’t even know I had! It wasn’t a big, catastrophic event that I’d suppressed – it was the backdrop of my life that had long since been “normalized”. And, to my surprise, so was my shame.
Shame is built-in to trauma and it lurks on the unconscious level – so unless we know how to unstack those building blocks, we’ll get stuck there every time. And because shame feels shitty, nobody wants to look at it or stir it up, but it’s there – very much alive and living in every corner of our life. How it shows up can be deceiving.
When I was that client, my coach encouraged me to use my OWN work to get myself unstuck, which was the most empowering thing she could have offered me – and she was right! I had the work – I just hadn’t gone deep enough. I hadn’t gotten to the REAL root of it. Thru my own untangling process, I found a deep, unhealed childhood trauma that had been re-opened by a recent emotional trauma, and I’d been catapulted into the shame of it. When I connected the dots, I finally cracked the code that shifted everything – both in my life and my work!
As I walked mySelf thru my own healing, I could clearly see the building blocks of my experiences that had informed untrue perceptions about mySelf I’d held my whole life – and as I “unstacked” them, I was able to recover and heal parts of me I’d hidden away in shame. That’s where we get stuck – in those hidden places of shame – and that’s what eventually becomes the cork in our JOY!
When I began to integrate this new method into my work with clients, I found the results were coming quicker and easier – and the 60-day Soul Integration Program™ was born! Why 60 days? Because that’s about how long it took once I cracked the code! I’m living proof, it does not take years of therapy to heal – not when you’re working on the REAL root cause, with a step-by-step method and consistent 1:1 support thru the process.
But I get it, shame is a bugar. It keeps us in hiding. It keeps us small. It keeps us from going there, where we can heal it. It tells us things about ourSelf that aren’t True and we don’t talk back because we believe it. But it’s not REAL! It’s a trauma response and it’s far more common than you might think! If we’ve had any kind of trauma in our life (and we’ll talk about what that really means), shame comes with it. (we’ll also talk about why that happens) Unchecked, it will rear it’s head again and again until we heal it.
Are you feeling me? #iykyk Is your Soul calling you to uncork your JOY? I know mine was! But this is Soul work and only YOU will know if it’s aligned with yours. Are you ready to find out?
Just reply to this email with the word “ALIGNMENT” and I’ll send over next steps! Hint: It’s FREE to find out and either way, you’ll get tons of value you can use RIGHT NOW!
Imagine – what would life be like UNCORKED?! 🤔
So much love! Kate ❤️
P.S. For those who’ve asked – thank you, and yes – feel free to share this work or this newsletter with others who might benefit!
