Helloooo March! I love this month – it’s my birthday month 🎂 but even more, it’s the onset of Spring and that means new growth and new beginnings, and that lights up my Soul!🔥
My writing this month is a bit personal, but I think it’s important – and maybe it will be for you, too. This isn’t about politics, though the current political climate is undeniably triggering for many – including myself. This is about something deeper: truth, trust, and how easily we can forget WHO WE ARE.
If you follow me on social media, you know I’m open about my life. I do my best to stay positive and uplifting, but I’m also real and sometimes raw because I believe that sharing real-life struggles can be used for good. Sometimes, I just need to vent my frustrations – and I may or may not drop an F-bomb💣now and then. (Never at a person, of course – I have standards.😉) Overall, I feel like I strike a good balance, and I believe most who know me feel safe to be authentic with me, too.
That said, a follower recently told me that my posts expressing outrage over current events were “unbecoming” and “not in alignment” with who she thought I was – a “very beautiful lady with strong spiritual values.” At first, I thought, What does that even mean? That I wasn’t being “lady-like”? That someone with strong spiritual values shouldn’t feel outrage? Shouldn’t speak up? Shouldn’t take a stand? Come on – even JESUS flipped a few tables when the sacred was violated!
My knee-jerk reaction was to apologize, to soften, to make myself smaller so she’d still love and accept me. But I caught myself – that old voice whispering that I was “too much” is a lie I refuse to listen to anymore. The truth is, I am outraged. I am appalled. I do feel violated. And I will not apologize for being honest about that. Neither should you.
If you’ve ever felt the urge to silence yourself for fear of rejection, I see you. I’ve been there. But let me tell you – your voice matters. Your truth matters. And playing small won’t protect you – it will only cost you yourself.
Admittedly, it’s frustrating to see others not responding, not speaking up, or not even seeming to notice what seems so obvious to me. But then I realized – maybe they don’t see what I see. Maybe they don’t recognize the gaslighting, the manipulation, and the trauma bonding playing out on a larger scale. If you’ve never lived through that in a personal relationship, it might not register as the same slow erosion of truth and self-trust that happens in toxic, narcissistic relationships – something some of us can’t unsee.
I understand that. By the time I recognized what was happening in my own life, the damage was done. I had lost so much of who I was – or so I thought. I was still in there. It just took deep healing work to reconnect those pieces. And I did. Stronger. Clearer. More willing than ever to trust and love me. Take care of me. Honor and be true to WHO I AM.
One of the greatest gifts of my healing was learning to be brave with my life, my voice, and my choices – even in the face of rejection and abandonment. Even if it meant disappointing or losing people, it was worth the risk – because I know the cost of staying silent is losing myself.
Spiritually grounded, loving human beings are just that – human. Being spiritual doesn’t mean suppressing your truth to make others comfortable. That’s not enlightenment – that’s self-abandonment. On the flip side, if witnessing someone’s unfiltered truth makes you uncomfortable, you have a choice: lean into that discomfort, ask yourself why, and do the work to heal that – or look away. It’s really okay – it’s all just our humanness.
These are challenging times, to be sure, but it’s not really about anything “out there.” What’s rising to the surface to be healed is what needs our attention – what’s calling us back to ourselves. That might look like anxiety, people-pleasing, feeling stuck, struggling with confidence, depression, anger, shame, CPTSD, PTSD, etc. If any of this resonates with you, I want you to know you’re not alone. Reclaiming your voice – and your choice – starts with taking that first step, and sometimes that means reaching out for support.
If you’re ready to start the conversation, I’d be honored to support you. Just hit reply and let me know – or simply reach out when it feels right for you. You don’t have to figure this out alone – I’m right there with you.
So much love, Kate ❤️
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P.S.S. If you’re already engaged in this work or have in the past, please feel free to share this with anyone you feel would benefit. Thank you!
