“I’ve never worked with anyone that actually made me feel like there’s a way to heal”.
Still makes me tear up. A client said that to me after her Sacred Shift™. She’d finally had enough of living with something that didn’t deserve to take up even one inch of space in her life, and all her efforts to shut it out were spent.
When we talked about the Sacred Shift™, she knew she had to do it. She’d known she needed to do SOMETHING but the thought of reliving the pain kept her in it, constantly cycling under the surface. It’s that whack-a-mole thing.
Life can be great, we can have everything we’ve ever dreamed of, but that thing we keep at arms length will nag the sh** out of us until we give it the attention it needs.
And she did! And it was GORGEOUS!
But here’s what made her feel like she could finally heal: we didn’t go back into the trauma. We went back for the part of her she LOST in it and got her outta there. That’s the part that gets stuck – the part that’s triggered, over and over and over again.
And that’s why what you’ve done hasn’t worked. You’ve spent enough time reliving what happened and it hasn’t changed what it left you with. Anxiety, self-doubt, feeling stuck – you name it – and it’ll keep cycling every time that wounded part gets triggered, like ripping a bandaid off.
*Ouch*
It’s time to shift your focus and turn toward HER – she’s the one who needs you. And that work isn’t traumatizing at all – it’s tender, compassionate, forgiving connection.
And it’s time. You don’t have to do it alone and you don’t have to know how. I’ll walk with you every step, back to her and all the way home.
